The Renegade Writer

Want to Write More and Better? Practice Extreme Self Care

In 2005, I spent a few fabulous days at Canyon Ranch in Lenox, MA. The next year, Diana and I got a free stay there when we gave a talk on magazine writing. I’d love to return for more spa treatments and wonderful dining, but it is pricey — and I mean really pricey.

Last week, I received a letter from Canyon Ranch. The founders wrote that they’d been hearing from a lot of people that they feel guilty spending money on something as frivolous as a spa getaway in such tough economic times. The letter went on to try to convince me that I should never feel guilty for spending money on my health and well-being, and that I don’t need to add guilt on top of my stress and other negative feelings.

Of course, I understand that Canyon Ranch is probably seeing a dip in bookings due to the economy, and that their letter is a slightly desperate-sounding attempt to convince people to forget the economy and indulge in spa treatments and fancy food. But they sort of have a point.

In life coaching terms it’s called “extreme self care,” and my own life coach is adamant about making sure that her clients take the time to refill their tanks, so to speak, so they enjoy constant energy, creativity, and calm. When I told her a couple of weeks ago that I wanted to have more energy to get more work done, she helped me come up with a list of ways to replenish my energy that wouldn’t cost much money.

Here are some ideas for self care that will help you maintain the creativity and energy you need to succeed as a writer. Don’t feel bad about taking the time to take care of yourself; you’ll get more done in less time if you’re feeling rested and energetic than if you’re stressed, tired, and frantic. We writers spend a lot of mental energy on our business and our craft, and we need to replenish our energy regularly in order to remain productive.

• Take a bath. When you’re feeling stressed and exhausted, you can fritter away a half-hour on iCanHasCheezburger, which doesn’t do much for your energy, or you can take a relaxing bath and feel refreshed and ready to go afterwards. I’m lucky that we have a big clawfoot tub, and our water heater produces just enough hot water for a luxurious bath, so I do this a couple of times per week when I’m feeling especially jittery from work. Be sure to have an inflatable bath pillow, candles, or anything else that makes a bath feel like a special treat. Cost: Free.

• Eat. Recently I’ve lost my appetite for breakfast and lunch, and have been going until as late as 4 or 5 o’clock without food — not so good for energy. My life coach guessed that I was probably feeling too stressed to be hungry, and recommended that I make myself have at least a smoothie in the morning when I wake up for sustained energy. I now make a smoothie with natural peanut butter, banana, frozen blueberries, ground flax seed, honey, and lowfat milk. Cost: I haven’t parsed out all the ingredients, but I estimate it costs under $2 for a daily smoothie.

• Go natural. Getting out in nature is a wonderful change from sitting in an office staring at a computer all day, and when you get back you’ll feel ready to work again. Try going for a quick hike in the woods or a walk in your local park. Cost: Free.

• Splurge — but not too much — on a massage. A massage can cost $60 per hour or more, but I discovered that a chair massage at my local day spa costs $35 — as much as a restaurant meal for Eric and me. The one time I went recently, the masseuse really worked out the kinks I get in my neck and shoulders from work and stress. Cost: Varies, but is $35 per half-hour in my town. You can also look for schools that train estheticians, which may offer discounted massages and other spa treatments. Want even cheaper? Ask your partner to give you a back or foot massage.

• Breathe. During the day, take mini breaks to enjoy deep, diaphragmatic, energizing breaths. You can use a common sound or sight as a reminder to take a breathing break — for example, you can take a deep breath every time your phone rings or your e-mail alert chimes. Cost: Free.

Really take a bath. If you’re lucky enough to live in an area that has a Russian or Japanese bath house with hot and cold baths, showers, saunas, etc., you can get a spa experience on the cheap. (Unfortunately, my area doesn’t have one of these.) Cost: In major metropolitan areas, you can go to a communal Japanese bath house for around $25.

Taking care of your health doesn’t require tons of time or money — just a commitment to refuel yourself before you hit Empty. A bath, a breath break, or a walk can help you clear your mind, ward off work stress, and bump up the creativity you need as a writer.

How do you take care of yourself and maintain your energy? Please post your suggestions in the Comments below! [lf]

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9 Responses

  1. Great post, Linda! And very timely–I think this is the time of year that many writers feel particularly crunched, as we have tax stuff to take care of on top of everything else.

    Two other good breaks: some yoga, if that’s your thing (even a couple of sun salutations take the edge off); and coffee with a friend (sometimes all it takes is getting away from the computer and reminding yourself that there’s a real world out there).

  2. Star says:

    LOL. I’d say if Canyon Ranch learned about ME, they were on the ropes! I eat frozen broccoli with my ramen and get all the diseases I write about. So much for health. I suppose I could get some hot rocks from outside in the desert and put them on me…

  3. Katt says:

    Time with friends. Coffee (or tea) with friends every week can do wonders, it keeps you balanced and reminds you that you are not alone!

  4. Heiddi says:

    Hi Linda,

    This is a great post for writers and anyone else who happens to find it. So many people think that they have to spend tons of cash to relax and your post showed that. thanks so much for sharing this. :) Take Care, Heiddi.

  5. Anlina Sheng says:

    Great post – taking care of yourself is so important.

    I’ve been known to neglect myself but I’ve been trying to take better care recently, mainly by doing yoga 2-3 times a week. At an average of $10 per class, it’s a great and inexpensive way to both get your exercise and incredible relaxation.

    I also love going for massages. I page $50 an hour but I get the majority of that reimbursed through my extended health coverage through my husband’s work, which is awesome. Bonus – some spas have massage therapists on staff and a massage gets you access to their other facilities. Since the cost of the massage is mostly covered I can enjoy the hot tub, sauna, mineral baths and steam room for free afterwards.

    I live in the biggest Finnish community outside of Finland, so saunas are a huge thing here. I can get a private sauna for about $12 an hour with access to a communal hot tub and sun bathing area. I don’t go as often as I should but it’s a really great way to relax and doesn’t cost much.

    If you have cats, I find laying on the floor with them is a good way to relax. Being on the floor kind of forces you to look on the day with a different perspective (literally and figuratively) and it’s novel enough for the cats that they’re usually happy to hang out with you. Petting a cat is such a great stress relief and they’re a great reminder to enjoy life and take it easy.

  6. CC says:

    What a great post. I pratice self care by asking the right questions. I also do yoga every day after my walk. At times my head is telling me just sit down you did your workout, but then I say the way I feel is wonderful. I have also started to make time for some human interaction. As a writer we are online communicating but there is nothing like talking and interacting with a person.

  7. cal says:

    I would add naps — or relaxation/meditation techniques– about half an hour after lunch changes my whole day. You can buy or download (some free, others cost about $10) relaxation CDs or MP3s, put it on your iPod, lie down and half an hour later, even if I’ve dozed off, when it stops I wake up.

  8. I’m so happy you recognize this practice. Did you know Cheryl Richardson has a FANTASTIC new book out on this?? It’s pretty and inspiring and wonderful–something for anyone who works hard.

  9. Ami says:

    I’ve been learning this lesson recently, although I often forget to put it into action. Thanks for the reminder, and the great ideas!

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